It’s easy to fall prey to notions that the more we do, the more we get done. Or, the harder we work, the more we’ll earn. The reality is that the world is far more intricate and complex, and everything is connected. This is why success exists in spheres of paradoxes, why it’s so personal, and why it relies so heavily on finding a healthy balance.
When we become too focussed on one specific outcome, like taking on more responsibility, we can lose focus on another goal, like what we’re accomplishing.
Life is full of these paradoxes, and they keep us on an even keel so that we don’t capsize. But, if we’re not aware of them, we’ll find ourselves burning the candle at both ends, and we’ll feel like we’re doing more whilst accomplishing considerably less.
Here are a few more paradoxes to consider as you scope a new year ahead, look for new opportunities, think about new relationships or simply wish to make a fresh start!
Fail More to Succeed More
It’s normal to fear failure – and play it safe to try and avoid it. But as we look through history, the greatest discoveries are born from the greatest failures, and overnight success never happens… overnight. As you survey the journey ahead, embrace failure by learning to fail smart and fast. The quicker you get up and move on, the quicker you’ll adapt, learn and grow.
Memento Mori
As a famous quote of the Stoics, the focus on death (or our mortality) is not to become fixated with impending doom but rather embrace the beauty and precious moments around us every day. This approach is about seeking clarity, illumination and inspiration. Many religions speak to the importance of death and rebirth in the cycle of a full, valuable life. Our inevitability gives us profound purpose.
Reduce Choices, Increase Satisfaction
Ever tried to go to sleep at night, but you can’t log off Twitter? Social media keeps us engaged by imbuing “Choice paralysis”, it is a very real phenomenon – you’re not alone! The relationship between choice and satisfaction is much more nuanced than we’ve been led to believe. When trying to find a balanced approach to new beginnings, reducing choices is exceptionally valuable to deriving greater satisfaction.
Success doesn’t come from taking on everything that comes your way. It comes from focus – deep, disciplined focus on the tasks that really matter. Say yes to what matters, say no to what doesn’t. Protect your time. It is a gift to be cherished.