They say it is better to give than to receive. Researchers have found that the act of giving stimulates the same neural networks in the brain that activate when eating a cookie or running warm water over cold hands. It is a deep-seated gratification that makes you feel good before, during and after.
How do you feel when you do something for yourself? It is quite rare for us to say that you would give something to yourself. Instead, you are doing it for yourself or buying it for yourself. While the act may be essentially the same it loses that sense of gratification just by phrasing it differently! The only dissimilarity being in the mindset.
Giving to yourself may sound selfish to some, but self-care is important. When you give more to yourself, you have more to offer others. We aren’t necessarily talking about material possessions either. This attitude can be applied to a variety of intangible practices, garnering a feeling of gratitude where before there may have been reluctance. Here are some examples:
Setting realistic goals
What are we giving ourselves when we set goals? We get a sense of purpose, something to work towards, self-worth and ultimately a feeling of accomplishment. We deserve these things and there is literally nothing holding us back from giving it to ourselves. Decide what you want to achieve academically, personally and professionally. Aim high, but be realistic. Then write down the steps you need to take to realize your goals.
Getting help when you need it
Seeking help is a sign of strength. View it as giving yourself the support that you deserve. You wouldn’t expect those around you to bear the weight of the world on their shoulders alone, and you shouldn’t have to go through the same either. Request guidance if you are feeling lost on a matter, at least give yourself that.
Breaking the monotony
Routines help us stay on track. They provide a feeling of security and safety. The only downside is that they can grow a bit boring and stale. We need variation in our lives. Give yourself some adventure. Change up your running route, toss blueberries in your breakfast, explore new places, listen to new music, learn a new skill, put up a bookshelf or bake a new dish. You’ll thank yourself afterwards.
That’s what it comes down to in the end, being thankful. During the time of year when we are constantly told to be thankful to others, let’s not forget to be thankful to ourselves.